29Jun
Laugh and Be Positive

Want To Be Told “YES” More? Here’s How

Do you know someone who seems to be happy, positive, uplifting and full of vigor? I bet you do. Now tell me, is this person pleasant to be around? Before you answer, I’m not talking about the cheesy, fake, drive you crazy kind of “happy”. I’m talking about someone who is generally just optimistic about life and work. The answer should almost certainly be “yes”, unless you yourself are a negative grouch.

I think there are a few reasons why people who are this way generally get further in business and in life.


Have you ever heard of the Y.E.S. principle? I don’t remember where it came from or how I heard about it, but the concept is one I’ve remembered. People (regardless of age, sex, race, nationality or other factors) that are Youthful, Energetic and have Sex appeal are given the YES answer more often. Think about at least the first two of those factors for a minute.

Youthful (notice I didn’t say ‘young’) is something that comes from your attitude and your actions. Do you act “old”? Are you tired, lazy, boring, broken down and worn-out? I know plenty of people who fit into some or all of these categories in every age group.

Age is a state of mind.

I realize that things happen to us that are out of our control that may “age” us a bit. Bad luck, bad health or bad genes do not equal a bad attitude (unless you let them). If you want to be told YES more often, then you need to be and act more youthful. I’m not talking about to the extreme. Youthful isn’t immature. Here are some accurate synonyms though:

Active
Buoyant
Fresh
Keen
Vigorous

I’d love to have all of those words used when describing me, regardless of my age. The same can be said for the “E” in Y.E.S. How much energy do you exude? It’s okay if it’s a little all the way up to a lot – as long as it’s some. I’d submit that if it’s little to none on most days, you have a problem. The problem? You are being told “no” more often. I guarantee it. If you are full of energy and light, that attracts others. You recharge them. Who doesn’t want to be recharged? No one wants to be around an energy drain, especially when compared to an energy source.

Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to be youthful and energetic. Things go poorly for whatever reason. Life isn’t fair. Bad things happen. I’m not saying you can’t take time to be sad or grieve. I’m certainly not saying you can’t have a bad day or two here and there. What you don’t want to do, if you’d like more success and happiness in your business/life, is string too many of these days together.

So suck it up!

My parents have always said that “you just need to look out your own front door to find someone who has it worse”. This is quite literally true. The sad thing is that many times, when people open that door to take a look, and find someone – that person is still happier and more optimistic than they are! What a shame. Life is too short and too precious to be milquetoast. While there are varying degrees of each of the blog post title words, I’d submit to you the following:

1) Have TOO much energy rather than not enough.

2) Be the one in the room that thinks it CAN be done. Complainers and Debbie/Derek Downers get old – fast.

3) Get excited about what you are doing at work. If you continually cannot, change jobs/direction.

4) Tell a joke. Laugh more often. Quit taking yourself so seriously.

I can promise you that several good things will happen if you try to do some or all of these. Namely:

1) You will enjoy your time with family, friends and co-workers more. Why? They will enjoy being around you more. Your interactions will increase and that will lead to your relationships growing stronger.

2) You will be told YES more often. Yes at work (promotion, proposals, ideas). Yes at home. Yes with friends. Yes with significant others. YES is a beautiful word.

3) Your health will improve. You will actually feel physically better. There are a number of scientific studies that back this up. I’ll let you Google them.

4) Success begets success. If you can start the ball rolling in a positive, happy, energetic direction all kinds of other unintended benefits will come your way.

Even if all of these things don’t happen, one certainly will. You will enjoy life more. That’s worth it, isn’t it?

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About Alex Lawrence

Alex has been a successful entrepreneur for 20+ years. His current venture Lendio ranks #34 on the Inc. 500 list. Alex earned a BS degree at the University of Utah and his MBA at Weber State University, where he is Vice Provost and Director of the Entrepreneurship Program. If you want to talk with Alex about business and entrepreneurship (or other questions), email him (alex AT startupflavor DOT com), or you can find him on Twitter @_AlexLawrence.
  • We need more positive messages! Good post!

    • Alex Lawrence

      @WealthSavant (nice name): Thanks. Glad you liked it.

  • I love this and believe it is very true. I find that the more I dwell on a bad thing the deeper it gets, and the same about positive.

    • Alex Lawrence

      @Althea – Thank you! I agree with you 100%. Positive thinking brings positive results more often then not.

  • What, not tips for working on our sex appeal? 🙂

    • Alex Lawrence

      @John – LOL. That was a tough one for a blog post 😉

  • Awesome post Lawrence! Love the way you express your mind 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing!

  • This was a great post! I believe that this would really help change how many people in business view not only their jobs, but also everything around them. It makes sense and is extremely helpful. Any and all entrepreneurs or aspiring entrepreneurs should take a look at this article because it could really help them out.

  • Having that positive attitude goes a long way in business. I’ve never heard of Y.E.S before. It’s a funny way to remember to stay positive. It’s common sense that people would want to do business with someone who is happy and healthy. Great post, I think YES will stick in my mind for awhile

  •  A bowl of wheaties and some inspiration from Alex is a great way to start my day.  Thanks Alex.
     

  • Kiley Newbold

    Love it.  Great post! I especially resonate with the idea of perspective. Someone always has it worse, and our issues only have as much control as we give them.  I think that is why I love stories of triumph so much. The human spirit can do incredible things when we really tap into it.  Thanks again for the great read. 

    • alex_lawrence

      Hey Kiley – great to see you here at the blog.  Thanks for the comment.  I hope to see you engage more here.  

      Love your thoughts here, totally agree.  Glad you liked the read!  Keep in touch.

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