Do you know someone who seems to be happy, positive, uplifting and full of vigor? I bet you do. Now tell me, is this person pleasant to be around? Before you answer, I’m not talking about the cheesy, fake, drive you crazy kind of “happy”. I’m talking about someone who is generally just optimistic about life and work. The answer should almost certainly be “yes”, unless you yourself are a negative grouch.
I think there are a few reasons why people who are this way generally get further in business and in life.
Have you ever heard of the Y.E.S. principle? I don’t remember where it came from or how I heard about it, but the concept is one I’ve remembered. People (regardless of age, sex, race, nationality or other factors) that are Youthful, Energetic and have Sex appeal are given the YES answer more often. Think about at least the first two of those factors for a minute.
Youthful (notice I didn’t say ‘young’) is something that comes from your attitude and your actions. Do you act “old”? Are you tired, lazy, boring, broken down and worn-out? I know plenty of people who fit into some or all of these categories in every age group.
Age is a state of mind.
I realize that things happen to us that are out of our control that may “age” us a bit. Bad luck, bad health or bad genes do not equal a bad attitude (unless you let them). If you want to be told YES more often, then you need to be and act more youthful. I’m not talking about to the extreme. Youthful isn’t immature. Here are some accurate synonyms though:
I’d love to have all of those words used when describing me, regardless of my age. The same can be said for the “E” in Y.E.S. How much energy do you exude? It’s okay if it’s a little all the way up to a lot – as long as it’s some. I’d submit that if it’s little to none on most days, you have a problem. The problem? You are being told “no” more often. I guarantee it. If you are full of energy and light, that attracts others. You recharge them. Who doesn’t want to be recharged? No one wants to be around an energy drain, especially when compared to an energy source.
Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to be youthful and energetic. Things go poorly for whatever reason. Life isn’t fair. Bad things happen. I’m not saying you can’t take time to be sad or grieve. I’m certainly not saying you can’t have a bad day or two here and there. What you don’t want to do, if you’d like more success and happiness in your business/life, is string too many of these days together.
So suck it up!
My parents have always said that “you just need to look out your own front door to find someone who has it worse”. This is quite literally true. The sad thing is that many times, when people open that door to take a look, and find someone – that person is still happier and more optimistic than they are! What a shame. Life is too short and too precious to be milquetoast. While there are varying degrees of each of the blog post title words, I’d submit to you the following:
1) Have TOO much energy rather than not enough.
2) Be the one in the room that thinks it CAN be done. Complainers and Debbie/Derek Downers get old – fast.
3) Get excited about what you are doing at work. If you continually cannot, change jobs/direction.
4) Tell a joke. Laugh more often. Quit taking yourself so seriously.
I can promise you that several good things will happen if you try to do some or all of these. Namely:
1) You will enjoy your time with family, friends and co-workers more. Why? They will enjoy being around you more. Your interactions will increase and that will lead to your relationships growing stronger.
2) You will be told YES more often. Yes at work (promotion, proposals, ideas). Yes at home. Yes with friends. Yes with significant others. YES is a beautiful word.
3) Your health will improve. You will actually feel physically better. There are a number of scientific studies that back this up. I’ll let you Google them.
4) Success begets success. If you can start the ball rolling in a positive, happy, energetic direction all kinds of other unintended benefits will come your way.
Even if all of these things don’t happen, one certainly will. You will enjoy life more. That’s worth it, isn’t it?